Additional info about LDS voting

As I mentioned before, I’m not a member of the LDS church and I’m also not a republican, but I am interested in how people of faith are handling this election. And I happen to be on a mailing list of a group that turns out to have a lot of republican LDS members…and I just got an invitation for everyone (not just church members) to a webinar about the LDS vote. Several of you expressed interest in my previous post about the Mormon vote, so here is the invitation, and you can join the webinar if you want to learn more:

Reaching Out! LDS Focused Webinar!

We have been getting so many questions about the LDS vote, that we decided to address it head on. Because some of us in the PAC are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we explain that there is no such thing as the “LDS vote”: each Church member votes how he or she determines best. But the questions keep coming!

So, we felt it would be productive, to have an event that directly addresses the question. This is it! Click here or on the flyer below to register for the webinar. Don’t be shy, if you’re not LDS! It will be a great event for all!

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My Trip to California, Post 12: Silicon Valley Pride

The next day Laura’s friend, Cat, came over and we went together to the Silicon Valley Pride day. Cat was super sweet and brought me a slice of birthday cake.

Then we went to the festival together.

Laura got her arm painted.

We had a lot of fun! Cat said she’d never been to one of these things with a parent. Well, I’m just grateful my kids include me in their lives. And anyway, I’ve been going to pride events since the 1990’s when they were little kids in Olympia, Washington. We used to do AIDS Walks back then. It was heartbreaking. I’m so glad we have so much to celebrate nowadays.

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New (used) electric car

It seemed sudden. Nothing for months, then all at once we have another car. That is how it can be with major purchases. When it comes together it always feels sudden, no longer how long the process took.

We are now the proud owners of a 2014 electric BMW i3. It looks quite red in the photos, but it’s actually a rust-orange.

We’ve been talking about replacing the Mini Cooper for quite awhile. According to my google drive, I created my “Car Stats” spreadsheet on September 5, 2023. I probably hit a pothole that day that threatened to swallow the Mini.

The BMW i3 has always been high on my list, except it was discontinued in 2022. And they always say not to buy an old electric vehicle, right? There’s some good reasons for that. The engine battery eventually wears out and the battery is a major percentage of the price of an electric car. Also, range improves every year, so old electric vehicles have terrible range.

This old i3 can’t even make it to Phoenix and back. In fact, in the heat of the summer it wouldn’t even make it to Phoenix, much less back. And Phoenix is the holy grail around here. Therefore, this car has been sitting on a local used car lot for some time. I’m pretty sure I’ve noticed it online before. But it’s a 2014 and who buys a 2014 electric car?

Us, apparently. The prices of used electric cars are dropping a lot, so if you were assuming, like us, that they are by definition a bad deal, you might want to recheck that. True, this car won’t last forever and its range sucks, but it barely made a dent in our bank account.

We wanted an interim car because I’ve had it with the Mini Cooper, but who knows if/when the Telo truck we want will actually be available. It might be available in a couple of years. Buying a fancy new car does not make sense if you hope to replace it in 2-3 years. But continuing to drive a car we no longer like, while waiting for a concept car that’s at least two years out and may never make it to the market at all, isn’t a great strategy either. So we bought an interim car.

The i3 is oh so much nicer to drive than the Mini! There’s a fairly big difference in the driving experience between a 17-year-old gas car and a 10-year-old electric car. Wow.

We don’t mind the low range because we were only looking for something for me to use around town. All I ever do is go to the botanical garden on Mondays (a 6 mile round trip) and the UPS store, Trader Joes, and Sprouts once a week (also a 6 mile round trip) and Tally’s, where Biska goes once a week to doggie daycare to socialize (14 miles round trip). Plus the occasional trip downtown or to see a friend or to meet John for lunch. I bike to the gym, even in the heat of the summer, because it is truly that close (less than a mile).

We are currently charging it slowly on a regular 120 volt outlet (just like you have all over your house). When John has time, he will install a 220 volt outlet for it (like for a dryer or a stove). On 120 the car is like a cell phone – plug it in at night and it’ll be charged by morning.

We’re not worried about public charging options because if we’re going somewhere outside of Tucson we’ll take the 4Runner or the truck or the van. It’s not like we have a lack of car options! And the i3 isn’t an out-of-town sort of car. Did I mention the range sucks? Yeah.

It does have a small gas engine and a 2-gallon gas tank that can partially recharge the electric engine if you run out of juice. Two gallons hardly seems like enough to bother with all the extra mechanics involved in a hybrid. But apparently they wanted to meet a certain set of EU regulations in order to qualify for an advantageous category of vehicle in Europe.

The i3 small but not tiny. Here’s a screenshot of part of my handy-dandy spreadsheet comparing small electric cars. The i3 is 6 inches longer than the Mini but has a tighter turning circle. I have a thing about a tight turning radius, lol. Like I’ve mentioned before, I want a small maneuverable car! But I also want it to be tall enough for good visibility.

It has rear-hinged back doors for a clamshell effect. Our truck has that feature too, and it makes for really easy access. It’s particularly useful getting the dog in and out.

It has much better rear passenger space than the Mini does.

The upholstery is also in surprisingly good shape for such an old car. It comes from central California and doesn’t have a lot of mileage. (Probably because you can’t realistically leave town on a charge!)

Like the Mini, the rear seats fold down. The i3 has significantly more space in the back than the Mini does.

And that privacy cover can easily be removed if you want to put something tall back there.

See, tons of space. I could go furniture shopping!

It also has plenty of room for groceries without having to put the back seats down at all. Compared to the Mini, this has a huge trunk. Even with the seats up!

It sits higher than the Mini so I can see out better. Here’s a shot from a distance so you can get a feel for the size.

Our friend’s first comment when they saw it the other night was “another car?!?” Because yes, we now have quite a collection all stacked up in our driveway.

It looks like a used car lot, and you can’t even see the Mini Cooper in that photo! Our 2008 mid-sized pickup we are keeping for now (but would love to replace with that Telo truck I told you about, if it ever comes on the market). And we have our 2012 camper van that we are very attached to and have no intention of replacing anytime soon (we hope it lasts a long time). And John has a 2018 4Runner SUV. He bought it for the 4-wheeling capacity in the mountains, but it is large and offers a smooth ride, so it is also good for when we have visitors.

That’s not counting the sailboat which is on a trailer in our driveway (under the dark blue canvas in the background of the above photo), that we haven’t used since our epic trip to Florida in 2021. We have plans for that sailboat, just you wait and see.

So yeah, for now, too many vehicles. But we’ll get it all figured out. It just takes time. One step at a time. Let me know if you know anyone who wants a 2007 Mini Cooper in excellent shape (for a car that old). John did a great job of taking care of it. And it’s turbocharged, lol.

Meanwhile, the next step was to get the i3 home and figure out if it actually works. We had test driven it – it was fun to test drive. And the AC even worked (no small feat for an old car in our climate). But does the battery hold a charge? We bought this car cheap – with no warranty. I’m not sure if there is a 72-hour remorse law on the books in Arizona or not. That’s the biggest issue I could imagine; getting it home and realizing it couldn’t hold more than 20 miles worth of charge. I don’t mind not making it to Phoenix and back. But I at least want to be able to get to Dan and Dawn’s house on the westside (26 miles round trip), or my friend Peggy’s house even farther west (40 miles round trip) and of course the Desert Museum (41 miles round trip).

The Desert Museum, I may have mentioned before, isn’t an indoor museum, it’s a botanical garden and wildlife exhibit with some indoor exhibits of reptiles and things, showcasing everything that lives in the Sonora Desert. So the zoo-like section doesn’t have giraffes, it has javelina and other animals that live in this region. It’s a great place. But I’m way off topic.

The million dollar question is (actually, the few thousand dollar question is), will the new-old i3 engine battery hold a charge?? We plugged it in overnight and prepared to run it through its paces the next day. Would I be able to drive this thing any further than I can walk?

I’ve only been driving it for a couple of days, but I have figured out that it indeed has terrible range. I don’t actually know exactly how terrible it is, because the read-out estimating miles left on a charge isn’t accurate. At least not in the Tucson heat, with the AC blowing high the entire way. Also sometimes a fan runs even when it’s turned off and sitting in the driveway – trying to keep the battery from overheating, I assume.

But what I am noticing that I didn’t expect is how fun it is to drive! It handles the rough Tucson roads vastly better than the Mini Cooper. And the i3’s responsiveness is amazing. It has regenerative braking, as well as very rapid acceleration.

The regenerative braking means that all I have to do when approaching a red light is just ease up on the gas a little and it gently brakes rather than coasts. I don’t have to switch my foot to the brake unless I need to brake hard. This greatly reduces switching back and forth between the brake and the gas in stop and go city traffic.

The responsiveness of the acceleration is a real joy too. I’m not the sort of person who needs to go from 0 – 60 in some tiny fraction of time. But I really like how the car immediately does what I ask it to do.

In contrast, our Mini Cooper is turbocharged, which has a noticeable lag before the turbo kicks in. I’ve been putting up with that full second of lag time for, what, 15 years or more, and I got used to it. But I don’t miss that lag. It always felt like reluctance. I imagined my Mini Cooper whining at me like a child, “Uhh! I don’t wanna! I’m tired!…Okay, FINE then, I’m GOING! You happy now?”

So yes, I’m happy, I’m very happy with our new used i3. Although I think it needs a new name. I don’t want to call it “the electric car”, which is clunky, and i3 is impersonal. I sorta like “Tether” because it needs to spend most of its life tethered to an electrical outlet and it can’t go very far. Lol.

I’m also thinking maybe Elly, short for “electric” but also sounds a little bit like “i3”. Or is that way too contrived? We could just call it i3. I mean, we were kids when the cuteness of R2-D2 stormed the world. No one complained about R2-D2’s name being too long or impersonal. You just have to say it with the excited energy of a 10-year-old going to see the best movie EVER.

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Kudos All Around – Job Performance

More good news: Callan just got a performance bonus at work. It was completely unexpected and very welcome. Congratulations, Callan!

John is also doing very well at work. He has been moved to a different section that better utilizes his skills and his relationships with some key customers. He got right to work and quickly discovered an early-stage proposal that could be greatly strengthened based on what he already knew about the customer’s needs, as well as information he had gathered researching his company’s other products. At his recommendation and direction, they rewrote the proposal to take it in a completely new and better direction. John was then the key technical presenter during a 2-day meeting with the potential customer.

John already personally knew the individuals representing the customer from work he had done in Albuquerque, and they were very glad to see him on this proposal. His management made note of all that, and have put through a request for a promotion. We’ll see if the promotion goes through, but even if it doesn’t, I don’t think I’m exaggerating by saying that John single-handedly saved this proposal. (John is too humble to ever say anything like that himself, but this is my blog and I can call it how I see it).

Laura also had a major work victory, and this time, all I have to do is quote her coworkers’ feedback, and nobody can accuse me of exaggerating. For context, Laura works at as a technical professional at a consultancy. Her usual tasks include data analysis as well as project management. And she’s a great public speaker.

Laura doesn’t do sales, but a sales team in her company needed a technical presenter in a hurry during a proposal presentation, and they reached out to her.

Here’s the situation, in Laura’s words: “Yesterday I was asked to join a sales call to answer one of the oral interview questions (provided to the pursuit team 15 min prior to the call), and I only had 5 min prior to the call warning plus 20 min during the call while the pursuit team presented their pitch deck to prepare my response.

She goes on to explain, “While I was giving my response, the other folks [Laura’s coworkers in sales] were in one of our side chats sending these messages:”

“Laura is AWESOME”…”She really is. I have goosebumps.”

Laura’s company also has an excellent system for more formal reporting of positive feedback. A couple of days later, the feedback came in from three different coworkers on the sales team.

Her first coworker wrote, “Hi Laura, I want to give you a big shout out for coming into our presentation yesterday on 5 minutes notice to deliver a great answer to the client’s question yesterday. You stepped into a really difficult situation since you had no prior context of this proposal or presentation. You delivered a very thoughtful and professional client example to address the question. Our team really appreciates the great contribution on incredible short notice. THANK YOU!”

Her second coworker wrote, “The format for orals includes questions delivered fifteen minutes before the session begins. One of the questions was a bit unexpected and also hit an area that the proposal team felt less confident about. I reached out to a number of persons to help immediately. Laura answered the call. Having worked with Laura, I had great confidence that she would make our team look professional when talking about her data strategy and governance projects. She did so much more than that. She was calm, collected, detailed, and spoke with articulation and eloquence. She likely presented better than those of us who had prepared slides and stories. It was a tour de force performance and left the entire team feeling confident about winning this work. I was confident that Laura would be good. She was outstandingly excellent and I am so glad I asked for her help.

Her third coworker wrote, “Laura, I just wanted to provide you huge Kudos for knocking it out of the par for our demo/question session. We pulled you out of whatever you were doing, gave you a 5 minutes update of the situation, asked you to answer a scenario with about 10 questions and be ready to present in only 20 minutes. When it was your turn, you shined! It was incredible. You were professional, articulate, thorough, clear, concise and delivered the answer as a resident expert! I think our client was so impressed as well that they did not have one question for you. It was definitely a “Wow” moment. If we win this deal, your contribution will have definitely been a deciding factor. Thank you!!”

All I can say is “Wow!”

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Ooops

The email system for my blog hasn’t been working since an automated wordpress update happened at the end of January. Meanwhile I had posted and then taken back down a rather over-the-top rant. Since then I’ve been rewriting it, toning it down considerably, planning to post a more thoughtful version after my website was fixed. But when my friend fixed the email feature, an early version of it went out in emails. Which you just got. Sorry about that!

Anyway, my website is fixed now, and I’ll get caught up with my posts soon. If I still have any readers left after that crazy post!

Saving the Cactus

John and I were on a neighborhood walk over the weekend when we spotted a neighbor cutting down his cactus.

By chance, I had taken photos of it last month when it was in bloom (it’s on our daily walking route).

It was a beautiful thornless prickly pear.

I have no idea why they chopped it down, maybe they don’t like bees? He was still out there working on it when we walked by, so I asked him if we could have some of the cuttings and he said sure. It should root fine. We came back with our pickup truck and a couple of bins and took more than we needed. There was so much! He had scattered it all along the outside of his wall near the walking trail.

Here’s John collecting some. Note his mask; even outside with no one around, it’s the law here.

There’s so much cactus! It had been a huge and glorious specimen.

A friend of mine came down and got some too. Remember when I put a greeting card in a neighbor’s mailbox even though I didn’t even know her name? John thought I was crazy. Well, now she and I are email-pen-pals. She lives just up the street from the cactus guy, and I know she loves plants, so I emailed her to let her know.

John planted them all over the front yard, which we haven’t put much effort into yet, so is mostly just rock. We have plans to add more native plants, such as different kinds of cactus, as well as desert willow and similar drought-resistant plants.

After scattering them around the front yard, he put the extras in pots for now. We’ll have to see how they do. (Locals, let me know if you want a thornless prickly pear!)

That same afternoon our internet quit. We were sure it wasn’t our modem, so we managed to talk Comcast into sending out a repair technician. Turns out instead of having a robust cable buried deep in a conduit, we just had a flimsy line, a few inches below the rock.

John had managed to cut the line while planting cactus, without even realizing it. (Isn’t that a cute little cactus? It looks like an alien!)

The technician installed another flimsy line as a temporary measure, so now we have internet again. They want to trench 18″ deep and lay new cable in a conduit, which is the more modern method.

But John is dubious, because it would be a lot of trenching. It would need to run from the street, under our driveway, and all the way up the side of our house. He doesn’t trust them to do it without killing an evergreen we have on that side of the house, or messing up the driveway, or something. Who trusts Comcast? So we’ll see. It’s always something!

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An interesting story

I don’t usually republish news articles because you have no trouble looking at the news on your own. However, I’m making an exception for this article because it published in a small local newspaper and I’m assuming it’s not going to get picked up by the national news. And it’s quite good.

I liked this article because it’s simply somebody’s story. Actually, it’s two stories, juxtaposed. The author, from Santa Fe, was forcibly quarantined in China in 2009 during the H1N1 pandemic, and he was arrested and held for protesting in Houston last month. In the article he explores the similarities between those experiences, and pretty much leaves you to draw your own conclusions.

https://www.sfreporter.com/news/coverstories/2020/07/15/east-and-west/

Send me an email if that link doesn’t work for you.

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Dealing with the Difficulty

Later today (if I get a chance) I’m planning to post a cheerful blog about our camping trip on Memorial Day Weekend. Other times I post about selling our rentals or my ongoing struggles with chemotherapy (not as cheerful, but still pretty self-oriented).

Meanwhile, the world is suffering a pandemic and our country is rioting over tragic deaths due to our own government’s incompetence and our own biases. Our police, our rules, our culture and our policies; WE are killing innocent people, and not indiscriminately.

That is happening while I’m blithely writing about rentals and camping trips. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s just that you already have hundreds of news outlets, websites, and Facebook friends telling you what they think about all that.

So here’s something my friend just sent me. It was filmed back in spring 2017, when we knew the world was headed in the wrong direction but we had no idea yet how bad it would get. But the skit isn’t about that. It’s upbeat and funny 🙂

Thanks to Tracey for sending this:

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Darren writes about intersectionality

Darren was invited to be a guest writer on a post about stammering. Here’s the post – it’s very interesting! Let me know if the link doesn’t work and I’ll post the text.

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Santa Fe is under contract

The townhome in Santa Fe got two full-price cash offers on the first day. Wow. Cash offers. Full-price cash offers. Two of them! Guess we should have listed it for more? We accepted one of the offers and everything seems to be going fine so far. The only possible issue that I can think of is…a tree. Yes, tree issues at both houses!

The open space right next to the Santa Fe townhouse has a huge tree that the HOA plans to remove soon.

We’ve told the buyers and hopefully they won’t mind and will agree with the HOA and be glad it’s being removed. Removing that tree is going to be a big messy job. It’s always nerve wracking whenever anything is happening while a house is under contract. Being under contract is a very tenuous position where the house isn’t for sale, but it isn’t sold either.

Remember when John and I almost bought a nice house in Placitas? The sellers had to replace the septic system while we were under contract. They ran into some issues, it got messy, and John and I spooked.

Originally it had really nice backyard landscaping that included a bocce ball court. That all got plowed under. It was heartbreaking to watch and we ended up getting out of the contract. The sellers relisted the house and got new buyers, so it all worked out in the end. But they were considerably delayed. Houses aren’t sold until the sale closes!