Nesting Dove

We have a very determined dove nesting in our potted guava tree in our backyard, just a few feet from our house.

No matter what happens, she does not move.

Biska is curious and got up into the plant pot and was trying to climb the tree to get to the dove. She broke off some lower branches and was generally being a nuisance. So John installed this temporary cardboard barrier to discourage Biska.

The whole time John was working to set up the cardboard, the dove just sat there on her nest. It’s a very small tree and the dove is only at about head height. John was inches from her as he worked. I also had been sitting in those chairs before I knew she was there, but I’ve since moved the chairs away.

Biska’s like, “I want to play with the bird in there!” But now she knows she’s not supposed to put her front paws up there, and she’s a pretty well behaved dog. I occasionally have to call her away, but she is mostly ignoring the bird now. We’ll see what happens when there’s baby birds!

Here you can see how close the tree is to the house.

It seems like a poor place for a nest, but my friends tell me that the nesting dove’s biggest threat is the ravens, who will try to eat the eggs. So maybe it’s a genius place for a nest. Being so close to the house and guarded by a dog might deter the ravens.

It’s been two weeks, and we’e never seen her leave the nest, no matter how close we get (we’re trying not to harass her, but it is our backyard).

We first noticed her on May 15th. It’s now May 29th. Those chicks are due!

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Happy Health News

Hi, this is just a quick post to let you know that everyone’s biopsies came out cancer-free, yay! We had three members of the family with suspicious lumps and bumps that needed removed and biopsied in the last couple of weeks. Although actually, now that I think about it, this isn’t just a quick post to let you know about our happiness about everyone getting negative results. This is a quick post to nag us all (you and me both) about getting our cancer screenings done!

For example, did you know that, “The American Cancer Society recommends people between the ages of 20 and 40 get a professional skin exam every three years – especially if they live in sunny climates. This recommendation jumps to once annually for people over age 40.

Uh…oops. I…need to do that! I’m old! And I have blond/red hair! And I live in Tucson! And I am outside as much as possible because that’s what makes me happy! And before I lived in Tucson, I lived in Albuquerque! There’s not much atmosphere between you and the sun up there in Albuquerque. So yeah, I should go do that. Pronto.

Also, do your mammograms. The guidance is, “Women between 40 and 44 have the option to start screening with a mammogram every year. Women 45 to 54 should get mammograms every year. Women 55 and older can switch to a mammogram every other year, or they can choose to continue yearly mammograms.” Mammograms are fast and easy, somewhat uncomfortable, but not invasive. No prep, no IV, no nothing. Easy-peasy! It can’t get easier than this, so just go and do it.

Ok, yeah, it’s a bit uncomfortable. Sure, let’s talk boobs for a minute! For those of you who have never had a mammogram, how it works is you’re supposed to stick your boob into a machine between two horizontal plates so they can x-ray it without x-raying your entire chest. Big-boobed women always whine about mammograms because they have a lot that gets smashed flat into those machines. But think a minute about small-boobed women’s mammogram experience.

Some of us have boobs so small that they don’t stick out far enough to even get into the darn machine! So the technicians are tugging and tugging on our boobs, and we’re pushing up against that machine like we’re trying completely merge into one human-machine cyborg, but there’s still next to nothing sticking out far enough to get between those x-ray plates except one itty-bitty nipple. The technicians are frustrated and it feels like it’s your fault because you somehow aren’t woman enough with your little-boy boobs. Actually, all the technicians I’ve ever had were super sweet about it; I’m just joking here. Bottom line is, the mammogram appointment is not the most dignified moment of one’s day regardless of boob size, but just get it done and laugh about it afterwards.

And finally the important one that most people dread, but isn’t really all that bad – the colonoscopy. They used to say to get your first colonoscopy at age 50, but they’ve lowered that to 45 because the rate of colon cancer in young people is going way up. And don’t just rely on one of those “mail in a sample” tests they are advertising nowadays. Sure, those tests might (might) catch it if you have late stage cancer, but you want to catch it a long, long time before that. Trust me on that. My colon cancer treatment in 2020 was a living nightmare and I will never be the same again. A routine colonoscopy is a walk in the park on a beautiful day in comparison.

Also, the at-home colon cancer tests are useless to protect you against getting cancer. Whereas colonoscopy is not just a screening, it’s a protective measure! During your colonoscopy, the doctor will remove all the polyps that can turn into cancer. I had three polyps removed during my routine colonoscopy last week. That’s 3 polyps that could become cancerous, that weren’t there a couple of years ago during my previous colonoscopy. The doctor was able to remove them right then and there, during the colonoscopy. So it’s not just a screening! It’s an important cancer preventative measure.

As my regular readers remember, I could have died because I didn’t do my first colonoscopy until age 53, at which point, I had a tumor and it had started to spread into lymph nodes – stage 3 colon cancer (with no symptoms). So do your colonoscopies early! Once you’ve done your first one, they will be able to tell you when you need your next one. It may not be for another 10 years if you were all clear with no polyps. I do them a lot more often than that, of course, now that we know I’m such a high risk.

Ok, I’m going to quit nagging you now. But one more note – this post is not a comprehensive list of all the common and recommended cancer screenings out there. It’s just the 3 I felt like talking about this morning. You know how to google. Figure out what your priorities are for your age and risk factors, and make those appointments!

And here’s my accountability – John and I are going to get our skin cancer screenings done asap, right John?

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Kudos and Congratulations

On April 11, Callan and Guen got officially engaged!

The wedding date hasn’t been set yet but the location will be in Twin Falls, ID, where Guen’s family lives.

Congratulations!

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Kudos All Around – Nailing the Hobbies

Let’s start with this incredible photo of my nephew. Way to go! Looking GREAT! What a lot of effort that must take.

Sorry that photo is a bit blurry, it had been passed around various family member’s cell phones a few times before I got a hold of it.

Next up, Laura is now an officially certified open water diver. The training for that is intense! She can now go on diving trips around the world, as well as nearby trips held every weekend in Monterey Bay.

Congratulations, Laura!

And lastly, I finished my Master’s Naturalist certification. I now know far more than I ever thought I would about the Sonoran Desert. The problem is, the environment is so huge and complicated that there’s still vastly more that I don’t know than I do know. John likes to quiz me and I’m like, I have no idea! I don’t know even a fraction of all the weeds and shrubs and prickly things in southern Arizona.

Here’s a secret if you’re in Tucson and hearing birds and someone asks you, “What bird is that?”, just guess “house sparrow”. Practically every single recording I take has house sparrows in the background. So you’re bound to be right!

Screenshot

I did a lot of writing for the certification program, including a very long blog entry (that they haven’t posted yet). I’m hoping I have a chance to post that here for you soon.

At graduation we each got a mineral. The one they gave me is a small piece of quartz and pyrite (fool’s gold), about 1.5″ long. I like it a lot!

My certification class was an enormous amount of work and it was part of the reason I got so far behind with this blog. It went for an entire semester, from January until May.

We have one more congratulations post coming up, and then back to regularly scheduled programming.

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Kudos All Around – New Jobs

I have two or three Kudos posts to write. Let’s start with the new jobs!

Guen has a new job this month and so far it’s going very well. I think she’s been there about 3 weeks, she loves the job and they love her too. It’s a full-time position in home health care. Congratulations, Guen!

My brother Mark also has a new job. At his previous job he had been a manager with a large number of employees. He had just been promoted to Director level when suddenly they laid off half of their staff, including Mark. He was quickly able to get a new job with a company he has worked for previously, up in Milpitas, CA in the Bay Area. He and Jonathan will be up there for now, with Yang and the younger two still in San Diego. Mark says Yang will stay in San Diego until their younger two kids are through high school, which is still a few years yet.

John’s long-time friend Gerald has also gotten a new job offer. He cautions that it is still in the early phases (various hoops to go through yet, I assume he will need a clearance, etc.) If it all works out, he will be moving from the Chicago area to Washington DC. That will be a huge change for him because he has lived in his same apartment for decades.

The job itself will be a huge change for Gerald too. It’s not clear to me what he will be doing, but my guess is that it could involve translating technical documents for an intelligence agency (Gerald can read technical Arabic). That is a far cry from his current position of teaching physics to freshman at a small liberal arts college. Congratulations Gerald! It’s hard to make such a big change at our age. Way to go!

More kudos coming up in the next couple of posts, stay tuned!

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Range Hood Installation

Did I tell you John finally had time to install the range hood? This is old news, in that he got it installed over a month ago, and I forgot to post these photos earlier. But also the hood sat in a box in the garage for several months. It was a lot of work for him to install so he had to wait until he had a long weekend, with good weather, without other more pressing priorities.

First step, after much measuring and planning, was to cut a hole in the ceiling.

Yep, there’s our 5 inches of flat wooden roof between ourselves and the sky. I’ve mentioned this crazy roof several times before, but I still can’t get over how many mid-century houses in Tucson were built this way.

After cutting the hole, he had to install the vent pipe and run an electrical outlet to it. Our electrical wires are in conduit on the roof (since there’s no crawl space for them!) Then it all needs sealed up there so it doesn’t leak in the rain.

Next came the supports for the ducting and the hood. The new electrical outlet is hidden underneath the range hood duct. It was a trick to get everything lined up, the hood plugged in, and the insulation added inside. In this next photo you can see it’s all staged and ready to be lifted, with the hood resting on some old boxes.

The chimney ductwork could be extended to various lengths. It was a challenge to decide how high or low to position the hood. We needed it to be close enough to the stove to be efficient at venting. We also wanted to be able to easily reach the controls, but still be able to see under it. There was initially an illusion that we would knock our heads against it when working at the stove, but that turned out to not be the case at all. It’s well out of the way.

We’re happy with the color. It looks black in the photos but it’s not. Black was too intense, and stainless steel was too shiny to go with the more muted colors in our kitchen. This is a dark stainless (I think it was called charcoal) that seems to work well with the stove.

I bought that range hood on a 50% off sale, sometime back in 2023, so by the time we got around to getting ready to install it, it was not returnable anymore. Good thing it worked out! The kitchen is finally done!

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Mysterious comic strip

Marble games have always fascinated me since a Sesame Street clip I loved 50 years ago.

Yesterday when I was feeling poorly after a medical procedure, I discovered this interactive xkcd comic.

https://xkcd.com/2916

At first I was like, how is this a comic?

If you click on “View Machine” in the bottom left corner, and then pan around, it seems endless. I have no idea how big it is. It’s like a digital marble game. With cats?

I still didn’t get it. I thought the comic was clever in that we can only look at a little bit of it at a time. A metaphor for life. It is intriguing to look at. But not being a gamer, I didn’t initially realize it was interactive.

Until I noticed the little “edit” button in the lower left. It appears you can create your own marble game!

The tools are on the top right in edit mode. I clicked on the tool set and clicked on a brick. The brick positioned itself in the middle of the game, and now the balls bounce off the brick. Lol.

Here’s another I started, that doesn’t do much either. You can choose a variety of tools, move them, and turn them around. I’m not sure why one of my games has yellow balls coming from the top center, and one has green and red balls coming from elsewhere.

OMG this is fascinating. Here’s a screenshot of a new one I’m making.

You might ask yourself, how did those blue balls end up in the middle of nowhere in the top half of this game? Well, those two long baskets that slightly overlap will sometimes collect balls on their handles and then toss them upwards when the baskets dump. I took the screenshot right when they bounced.

I’m figuring out that the goal is to get the balls fed back out of the game through the exit gears (which look the same as the entrance gears except they’re turning the opposite way and there’s a little triangle arrow). If the balls sit around too long without going anywhere, they disappear. Oh no, my balls are dying!

I’m getting some balls fed out the gears, but I’m still not getting any of my red X’s to turn into green checkmarks.

Ah-ha! I finally figured it out. The colored balls are supposed to go out the gear with the triangle colored to match. Blue balls go out blue triangle gears, yellow balls go out yellow triangle gears. That’s simple enough. I’m not getting any points for putting yellow balls out the blue ball gear. Those of you who are gamers (Callan, Guen) are laughing at me right now. Yeah, I’m a beyond-newbie.

Yay, two green checkmarks. But how am I supposed to get those yellow balls, that are coming out so low on the right hand side, up to their exit on the left? I will have to defy gravity. That’s what those swinging baskets are for. I will have to figure out how they work.

It appears that readers who create their own working game can submit it. Maybe the submissions get added to the entire thing you see when you click on “View Machine”. In which case, no wonder it seems crazy and endless. And that might be why the different games I started have different colored balls coming from different locations. That might be how it inserts into the bigger game. Like puzzle pieces, there are probably a set number of tiles configured in standard ways along the edges, and we can do what we want within the tile. This is very cool.

I still don’t understand the cats though. My toolbox has no cats. Maybe when I get better I get cats?

My friends all do Wordle. Maybe I should create marble game tiles.

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Blogging On

I emailed all of you recently, discussing whether I should just switch to email rather than the blog format, due to price increases for my website hosting. Several of you said that would be fine, but I decided to keep using this blog for now.

For one thing, John likes to be able to go back and look up stuff, for example, if he’s trying to remember when we went on a particular trip. And I realized something odd as I preparing to try writing my first email blog post – I was inhibited by the email format!

I felt like in an email I had to have something to say that was somehow practical or useful. Whereas this blog – not so much. For example, I’m considering posting about my blueberry and spinach smoothie, which is not earth shattering news. In fact its level of importance is so very low, it’s practically ridiculous. Which is part of the point of this blog. My initial goal statement I wrote when I started this blog 7 years ago states, “The lighter side of life – staying in touch with friends and family by celebrating the ordinary.”

Then the world got a pandemic and I got cancer and I admit, this blog was not always “celebrating the ordinary”. But writing about blueberry-spinach smoothies is definitely “celebrating the ordinary.” So here we are, and here’s to another year of mostly celebrating the ordinary. Mostly!

I’m hoping to write soon about Callan & Guen’s exciting news, Laura’s new hobby, Emily’s visit last week, my recent Meet-up adventures, my naturalist class, my compassion class, post desert wildflower photos from recent hikes with John, and of course, let’s not forget the blueberry smoothie. 🙂

Meanwhile, here’s an amazing cactus flower from the yard of some new friends of mine:

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U-turn

I almost always do what my calendar tells me to do. But when I was nearly to my flamenco dance class on Tuesday, I made a U-turn and went back home. I realized I didn’t want to go.

I usually push myself to do things, because it’s easier to just stay home and read books. It’s good for me to be out and active. I had been hopeful about flamenco, but my first class, last week, wasn’t how I imagined. I had imagined that the flamenco class would be fun; good music and stomping exercise. What I got was short bits of slower music and careful, exact foot placement and choreography.

It took me until I was nearly there to realize, wait, that class is just not what I am looking for. While making a U-turn to head back home, I saw this sign.

I also almost always do what signs tell me to do, but yes, not only was I accidentally making an illegal u-turn, I was also fiddling with my phone to take this photo while making that illegal U-turn! OMG, don’t tell anyone.

Can you believe, I didn’t even notice the U-turn sign until I was home looking at my pictures! That’s because I was so intent on figuring out (and photographing) the blue sign below it.

These blue signs are all over our major intersections, so I knew that it had originally said, “Say no to handouts, Say yes to helping agencies serving those in need.” We have a lot of panhandlers at the intersections and these signs are the city’s way of discouraging it. However, someone took blue tape and white ink and altered it to say, “Say no to expensive signs” Good point, right? I would love to see our city invest more directly into all those helping agencies (of which, like everywhere, we have far too few and they are far too poorly funded) and less in distracting signs.

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Merlin Bird ID

My Merlin Bird ID phone application is amazing! It’s a free app from The Cornell Lab and it’s the most fun thing I’ve gotten in a long time. It’s the first of three new nature identification phone apps I’ve gotten this year and I’ve been meaning to blog about them because I think you’ll like them too.

The Merlin Bird ID app looks like this:

Here’s an example of a recording I took in February. You can see the sonogram readout on top, corresponding to the bird songs it’s recording.

In my neighborhood there’s often several birds singing at once. It will highlight in yellow the ones it is hearing at that moment.

If a bird is unexpected or rare for that time or place, it will note that too. A red dot means rare and an orange semi-circle means uncommon. That’s to alert you because the app isn’t perfect and might be mistaken. Or, you might want to start looking around and see if you can do a visual confirmation. You might have found something exciting!

One morning, I ran the recording at 9:43am for 2 minutes and 30 seconds and got 7 different kinds of birds!

House Sparrow
Mourning Dove
Lesser Goldfinch
House Finch
Gila Woodpecker
Northern Mockingbird
Ash-throated Flycatcher

Then I stopped the recording because an airplane was flying overhead. I restarted it a couple of minutes later and got most of the above birds again plus three more kinds of birds!

Verdin
Yellow-rumped Warbler
Eurasian Collared-Dove

That’s 10 different birds in 7 minutes! In my own backyard! In February! The number of types of birds in Tucson in the middle of the winter is a really amazing surprise for me. And now I can start to learn what I’m hearing!

I went back out a couple of hours later – in the middle of the day. I didn’t expect much in the middle of the day. But I heard 5 of the same sorts of birds I had heard in the morning, plus a new one: Pine Siskin.

I’ve never heard of a Pine Siskin! Which doesn’t mean much. I don’t know my birds. Before I moved here, I could pretty much only identify an owl and a crow. Speaking of crows, a couple of minutes later I got two more birds!

Common Raven
Anna’s Hummingbird

And a Pine Siskin again! So yes, ok that is apparently a thing. The Anna’s Hummingbird is very common here in the winter, I’ve been getting those every day.

At 2:00 that afternoon I got, in addition to the Lesser Goldfinch and the House Finch:

Red-winged Blackbird
Vermilion Flycatcher
Broad-billed Hummingbird

Then at 6:00 I got a Great Horned Owl. For a total of 17 different kinds of birds in one day! And I didn’t spend hours and hours recording. I just stepped outside between chores a few times, and ran the app for just a couple of minutes at a time. It’s truly amazing.

It’s starting to get addictive. The next morning I ran the app for 3 minutes around 8:30am and got 9 birds.

Nine different kinds of birds in a 3 minute recording!

Mourning Dove
House Sparrow
Lesser Goldfinch
House Finch
Verdin
Northern Mockingbird
Anna’s Hummingbird
Ash-throated Flycatcher
American Robin

Before this app, I enjoyed the sounds of the birds in Tucson in the winter, but I had no idea how many different birds I was hearing.

An hour later I went out for 5 minutes and recorded:

House Sparrow
Lesser Goldfinch
Vermilion Flycatcher
Northern Mockingbird
House Finch
Broad-billed Hummingbird
Yellow-rumped Warbler
Anna’s hummingbird
Verdin

A total of 12 different kinds of birds that morning. There will be others in the afternoon and evening. This app is so addictive!

As far as I can tell, the app doesn’t do a very good job of listing all my observations. I just have to scroll through all my recordings:

I’ve been putting all the birds I’ve heard into a spreadsheet, which rather clunky. Here’s my list so far since January, 40 birds! All of them I heard here in Tucson, and most of them I heard from my own backyard!

Albert’s Towhee
American Pipit
American Robin
Ash-throated Flycatcher
Black-throated Sparrow
Brewer’s Blackbird
Broad-billed Hummingbird
Brown-headed Cowbird
Cactus Wren
Common Raven
Cooper’s Hawk
Costa’s Hummingbird
Curve-billed Thrasher
Eurasion Collared-Dove
Gila Woodpecker
Great Horned Owl
Great-tailed Grackle
House Finch
House Sparrow
Lark Sparrow
Lesser Goldfinch
Lucy’s Warbler
Mourning Dove
Northern Cardinal
Northern Flicker
Northern Mockingbird
Phainopepla
Pine Siskin
Red-winged Blackbird
Rufous-winged Sparrow
Tree Swallow
Verdin
Vermilion Flycatcher
Vesper Sparrow
White-crowned Sparrow
White-throated Sparrow
White-winged Dove
Yellow Warbler
Yellow-rumped Warbler

Ideally, if I was serious, what I want to do is get a different Cornell Lab app called eBird, but I haven’t done that yet. I think it’s for reporting rather than identifying. And I’m just happy that the Merlin app tells me what birds I’m hearing. I’m not actually a serious birder. I’m so lucky to live somewhere with birdsong all winter long!

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