John kayaks in an industrial area – Post 30 of our August Seattle trip

Here’s another flashback from the end of our August trip. This is another adventure that I didn’t go on. John was going fast and furious towards the end of our Seattle trip, trying to fit it all in before it was time to go home.

I had gone with him on a kayak trip earlier in the month. He rented a kayak at the same place as before on Alki beach, but instead of padding down the beach, he paddled up into an industrial area.

We knew we’d soon miss the water, and were getting out on it as much as we could!

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Ferries at night – Post 29 of our August Seattle trip

Toward the end of our time in Seattle, we took an evening ride on the ferry. We weren’t going anywhere in particular – just out and back. It was beautiful.

We walked down at sunset, getting to the terminal just in time to see the sun go down.

The ferry was nearly empty.

You can barely see Mt. Rainier in this next one.

It was a lovely night.

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John rides a seaplane – Post 28 of our August Seattle trip

Here’s another flashback post from August. In this adventure, John takes a seaplane tour. I didn’t go. I like boats, not airplanes. Since I wasn’t along for this one, I don’t have much narration for you. I’m mostly just going to post the videos and photos he came back with.

John had a great time, but I’m glad I didn’t go. And I’m very glad he came back safely. Just one week after his trip, one of these little planes crashed into the Puget Sound and all 10 people onboard died. Of course it was a rare event – they safely run these little planes all day long, every day. But still, not my thing.

Here’s three videos John took of seaplanes taking off, landing, and taxiing; taken from the dock. Seaplane 1, Seaplane 2, Seaplane 3.

Here’s the view from inside John’s plane as it took off:

And here’s the view from inside as it landed:

And all the pictures! He took 101 of them, more actually, that’s after I removed the flubs and dubs (fingers and duplicates). We’ll see how many I actually upload.

That was too many pictures! But I’m really glad he got to go on his flying adventure during our August trip to Seattle.

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A Day of Nostalgia in Olympia – Post 27 of our August Seattle trip

Here’s another flashback post from our Seattle trip in August. I still have a few more of those posts to do.

After we had both nearly forgotten about my birthday, John was determined to find something memorable to do that day. What could be better for a birthday than a nostalgic trip to the town where I raised the kids?

Seattle is just over an hour’s drive from Olympia, where the kids and I lived in the 1990’s. Wow, so long ago! I eventually moved to southern California, and then to New Mexico, because I was not a fan of rain and dark gloom eleven months out of the year. So it was quite a privilege to be able to come back and visit during the one sunny month of the year (August).

We started at an art gallery in the little downtown area, but we didn’t buy anything. The vibe wasn’t right for Tucson decor. But it was fun to see the local Puget Sound environment reflected in the paintings.

Next we went to the waterfront. Olympia’s small downtown and the state capitol building is located at the south end of the West Bay of Budd Inlet, the very far southern reaches of the Puget Sound.

We enjoyed watching the orange jellyfish in the water.

This one’s for Serenity:

We had lunch on the patio at Budd Bay Café. (Yep, it’s still there!) While we were eating, someone nearby caught their chair leg in the wide gaps between the planks. When her chair leg went down into the gap, it threw her completely off her chair onto the ground. Someone else nearby said it almost happened to him too and he had to grab the patio railing to keep from falling. Then our waitress admitted that it happened all the time. Whaa? All the time? What is management thinking? They’re going to get sued. Just weld some wider plates onto the bottom of the chair legs or buy a different style of chair or something!

After lunch we went to my favorite hike in town, at Priest Point Park along the bay. The new name for Priest Point Park is Squaxin Park. No, I don’t know how to pronounce that. The name is new since I lived there.

The park has a beautiful set of looping trails through the trees and along the bay.

Here I am on the mud flats.

While we were walking along, suddenly I looked up and exclaimed, “The bear!” John did not know what I was talking about. A bear?

See, climbing the trunk of that tree?

It’s an ancient wooden bear that’s been there for who knows how many years. I remembered it was a bear before we were close enough to make it out. It’s been there since at least the 1990’s, possibly much longer.

Here’s a peek-a-boo view of the capitol building across the inlet.

We were hunting for the tree that Laura and her friends would sit on in high school. At first I thought it was a different one, but then John saw this and was like, yeah, this is the one for sure. Laura, John found your tree!

John was impressed by the simplicity and durability of the bridge construction.

It was so green.

The house where we lived was a tiny old house within walking distance of the park. At the time it wasn’t a fancy neighborhood but it was an excellent location right near the park and the water, and not far from downtown.

It’s hidden back there. Those big bushes were there when we lived there too, but not that nice wooden gate.

It was a 2-bedroom, 1 bathroom house, but the internet says it is now 1.25 bath, so the new owners must have added a quarter bath. It looks like they tore down the old garage and built an addition there on the right. It’s got a nice new roof. And it’s no longer painted bright blue. But it’s still dark as heck back in there.

I bought it for about $90,000 in 1997 and sold it for 190,000 in 2005. (I kept it as a rental from 2001-2005 when I lived in southern California, and didn’t sell it until I was moving to Albuquerque.) It is now worth about $460,000 according to the internet. If you don’t mind darkness and gloom even on the brightest summer day, then you’d like this house. I wonder if the old plum tree in the back is still alive?

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Laura’s amazing new tattoo

Laura did not start small. Despite never having a tattoo before, she was determined to get the tattoo she’s always wanted – a graceful peacock perched on her hip.

Here it is partially completed after her first session in June. Can you believe she had that much done in one sitting? It took hours and was very painful. Laura is a very determined person.

Her second session was delayed by covid and other scheduling issues, but she finally got it finished shortly before her trip to Italy. Just in time for it to be healed up and ready for swimming in the sea.

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Another trip to Tucson

When we were first buying the house in Tucson I kept saying, “It’s only 10 degrees hotter there”. And that’s true during the season we were most worried about – summer. Albuquerque is very nearly as hot as Tucson at the hottest time in the summer. But it turns out Albuquerque has bigger temperature swings over the rest of the year. The weather difference is closer 15 degrees to 20 degrees during the shoulder seasons and in the winter.

The afternoon temperatures over the weekend in Tucson were in the high 80’s. It was hot! We got back last night, and here we are in Albuquerque on this lovely Monday morning; it’s freezing. Literally.

John is supposed to be part of a group outdoor picture for an award his team won at work. If I remember correctly, that photo is supposed to be happening at about exactly when I took this video just now. (In case you don’t like clicking on links, it’s just 20 seconds of hail, you won’t miss much.)

So that was our welcome back to Albuquerque this morning.

We had wind on the way back yesterday. I have an excellent app for predicting winds in a visualization that works well for me. Here is the prediction on Thursday, for the wind on the following Sunday (which was yesterday, when we drove back to Albuquerque). It’s a great app, it’s called windfinder.

I hate driving the van in the wind. It’s a big nuisance going to Tucson frequently, and it’s probably not strictly necessary. But we feel better after we’ve done some yard work, cleaned the pool filters, checked on the drip irrigation, and tidied up the chaos in the house. For example, there was an entire full “big gulp” of coffee growing mold in the living room. I didn’t even know coffee could grow mold, but I guess if given long enough, it can. I don’t understand why they can’t pick up after themselves a little better. I think the problem is the tile guy. I really can’t wait until the floor tiling is done. It is such an invasive job, impacting every square inch of the house.

I went through the box of books that were ruined in the kitchen flood when they were doing the kitchen demolition work in August, and ordered the ones I wanted to replace. Ugh, $280 worth of cookbooks (actually we lost more than that, but $280 was the total for the ones I decided were worth replacing). We also lost a small flokati rug to mildew. I took it to Albuquerque to try to save it, but was unsuccessful.

I spent a lot of time getting the thick construction dust off my houseplants, which should have been temporarily covered in plastic during the drywall work. My contractor said he’d water them for me, but houseplants are not really his focus right now. I’ve brought the smaller ones back to Albuquerque and are hoping the larger ones will handle an intermittent watering plan. Very intermittent!

Here’s the living room after we tidied up some.

And my plants, dusted and in a better location:

The main reason for going out this weekend was to check on the completion of the screened porch. We had our back porch screened in by a company that specializes in that kind of work. Our contractor wasn’t involved in it, so we needed to go out and approve the work ourselves before paying the remainder on the invoice.

We are super happy about our new screened-in porch. As you have heard me mention (repeatedly), the mosquitos in Tucson are a problem. Tucson seems tropical to us – less dry than we expected, particularly in the summer when there’s significantly more rain than in Albuquerque. The tropical vibe comes complete with tiny aggressive tropical “tiger” mosquitos. They are small, fast and impossible to hear. And they bite all day long during the summer. The porch will allow us to enjoy the outdoors without the bugs. We already love it. The entire big panel on the left rolls up with a remote control, so if we want to open it up during the bug-free winters we can.

There are just a few tiny cracks along the bottom where mosquitos could get in, but those will be covered once we tile the patio floor.

John wants to put a doggie door in the screen door, but I think it would end up being a mosquito door. Plus, Biska already has a doggie door in and out of the house via our bedroom. She doesn’t need to be going in and out of the screened porch on every whim. She doesn’t need to be in the screened porch area at all. If we’re out there and we want her to join us, we can always let her in ourselves.

Meanwhile, on the inside of the house, we continue to be happy with the quality of the work itself, unhappy with the unnecessary mess, and disappointed with how long it’s taking. Luckily, the kitchen is starting to look somewhat less scary.

Unfortunately the cabinet company shipped two cabinets the wrong size, so we are waiting for replacement cabinets to arrive before our contractor can install them. Here you can see a corner base cabinet isn’t long enough:

It wasn’t my contractor’s mistake or my kitchen designer’s mistake. It was a factory mistake. The replacement cabinets should arrive soon. It’s always something.

I had a friend who wanted to come in early November – oops, we’re not going to be ready after all. Callan and Chirstina wanted to come at Thanksgiving, but I don’t think we’ll be ready for that either. Maybe Christmas? We’re definitely not ready for guests yet. Here’s the guest room, complete with its own toilet. Oh wait. I guess that one’s not usable, lol.

It’s a trip trying to figure out what is and is not useable. For example, the remodel of the master bathroom hasn’t started yet, and the original sinks are still in place and should be working. But for some reason they have been disconnected and aren’t usable. You would never know just from looking at them.

Yeah, that is one ugly set of sinks. At first we were thinking we could get away with just changing out that vanity and removing a similar one on the other side, but it’s looking more and more like we’re going to end up gutting the whole master bathroom. It’s very small and an extremely poor use of space. It will always be small, but we want to make it more useable, and able to accommodate a wheelchair.

Last time we went to Tucson the house was so torn up and unusable that we parked the van in the street in front of our house and lived 100% out of our van, including sleeping in the van at night. This time we were able to put together our bed in the master bedroom, utilize the pool bathroom, and use the new screened porch for our kitchen-dining and hang out space. Here’s our temporary kitchen on the back porch:

The cooler from the van is plugged in on the right, and we have a countertop microwave that came out of our old kitchen, which didn’t have a built-in microwave. There’s no sink on the porch, so we have to go out to the pool bathroom for water. It’s currently the only fully working bathroom. At least there is one!

The pool bathroom, by the way, is a bathroom that was added onto the back of the garage and is accessed from the backyard. My contractor calls it a cabana bath, but there isn’t a cabana, just a small addition onto the garage. You cannot access the pool bathroom from inside the house. It’s specifically for using when you’re using the pool. It’s also not heated or air conditioned, but I plan to put a portable unit in there, plus a fan. In the summer it can get so hot and humid you could pass out in there. There’s an idea. Add a bench and we have a sauna.

Ok, enough about the remodel! In other news, while in Tucson I managed to make it to my hairdresser. I don’t go on a very regular basis. I think the last time was sometime in July. I had him cut it pretty short because knowing me, I won’t have it done again for awhile.

I noticed the hair salon had brick accent walls.

I’m seemingly unable to stop thinking about remodel design ideas nowadays, no matter where I am or what I’m doing!

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Fall holiday photo contest!

We are once again in Tucson for the weekend, checking up on the remodel and going to appointments. This morning we dropped Biska off at Tally’s, our excellent dog sitter, while we met with our contractor. Tally took this fabulous picture of Biska.

Not only is Tally a great dog sitter and a dog trainer, she is apparently also an excellent dog photographer.

It gave me a great idea – let’s do a fall holiday photo contest! Since obviously, that’s such a great photo that I’m going to win!!! Although yeah, I didn’t take it so I guess it would be Tally’s win.

Send me your best photo of halloween or Día de Muertos or fall harvest or whatever you celebrate this month-ish.

Emily says that in New England it’s “Leaf Peeping” season. I told her I couldn’t believe the tourism board, or chamber of commerce or whoever, couldn’t come up with a better name than leaf peeping, which, in my opinion, is horrendously horribly hilarious! I’m not sure I want anyone sending me something called a leaf peeping photo!

Anyway, send your best fall photo and I’ll post them sometime in the middle of November before we are completely taken over by the winter holiday vibe. And if it goes well, maybe we can do it again for the winter holidays. One rule though – your fall holiday photo has to be from this year!

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Laura’s safely home from Italy

Her last messages from Italy read:

“Last day in Italy was pretty uneventful, we just wandered around in the rain. Here’s a picture of a nice view of Rome and the Vatican.”

“About to head to bed, then off to the airport bright and early in the morning!”

Overall, I liked last year’s trip to Spain a lot better (and not just because I didn’t catch covid that time). I liked the food there better, and was a lot more comfortable with both the language and the culture. People here seem so pushy and rude!

“Back in the US! Both Alex and I misread the email with our flight times and thought we were arriving at 11:30 am this morning rather than 4:30 pm. I was so confused about our arrival – even though I knew we were arriving the same day as we departed, I had it in my head that we were arriving Saturday late morning 😝”

“Instead, we are in rush hour traffic on 101, welcome back to the Bay Area!”

Welcome back Laura!

Laura is back from Italy but still sending me material to post. Next up from Laura: Tattoos and Kittens. Now if only I could get her to send me material for the new blog I’m starting on my new life coaching website!

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Checking on the remodel

After my friend Amy’s visit and our fun time at the Balloon Fiesta, John and I took another quick trip back to Tucson to check on the remodel again (this commute is getting to be a big pain in the butt). It had been three weeks since we had gone out in September, and we couldn’t really tell that there had been much progress. Here’s where we were as of October 8.

A little bit more tile had been installed. The tile looks great, although it’s hard to notice past all the stuff that isn’t done yet.

The new sliding doors and the new back door to the garage had already been in for awhile, and are still not trimmed yet.

This next picture is the sliding glass door from the main bedroom suite out to the backyard. We’re going to try to do a minimal trim around it rather than slapping big clunky 1×4’s all around the edges. But obviously that orange filler foam is going to need to be covered up. (This photo is from standing outside looking in; the pool is just reflecting in the glass.)

Look – an incorporated doggie door in the lower corner! It looks small, but our only choices were small or huge. Biska is full grown at 25 pounds, so as long as we don’t go and adopt a big dog, we’re good.

The next photo is the new sliding glass door from the back porch to the family/dining area. We got a 8″ wide slider, which is significantly larger than the one it is replacing. We were able to enlarge the opening fairly easily because this is one of the few exterior walls that’s not adobe brick. It’s not brick because it was originally an Arizona room with no back wall. Then when it was enclosed at some point, they just used drywall and wood siding. That made it easier for us to expand the opening. Eventually we plan to stucco the back wall, which will look better with the brick walls than the siding does. I assume stucco would be cheaper than bricking it, although bricking it is an option. My contractor thinks we can still get that burnt adobe brick, even though it’s not usually used anymore. It would be nice if we could get it in 3″ thick rather than 6″, because we would want to retain the stick framing in order to add insulation. Our 6″ thick brick adobe walls have no insulation because there is no hollow wall space to put it into.

I don’t know what to call this room that goes out onto the back patio. We’ve taken to calling it the Arizona room because that’s what it was originally, before this back wall was installed. The previous owners had their refrigerator here (because there was no place for it in the kitchen) and they had a couch pushed awkwardly across half the entryway.

When we moved in, at first it we made it John’s office because it was his favorite room in the house. He loved the interior brick walls, unpainted beam ceilings, and he liked working in the main part of the house near the patio. But when he’s having conference calls all day, I feel inhibited about clattering away in the kitchen. That’s when we decided to make it a dining room. It would make an excellent dining room, but I’d also really like to have a family room near the kitchen. If it were just John and I, we don’t really need both a family room and a living room. But I have some non-dog-friendly (and non-kid-friendly) furniture, artwork, house plants, and my handpan that I would like to keep in the living room, that I can close off with French doors.

I’d like to have a more casual, kid and dog friendly space with a TV near the kitchen/dining area. My husband needs TV time with the dog! (Since the poor guy can rarely get me sat down to watch TV with him.) That means a dog-friendly couch. Plus my little nieces need a peanut-butter-friendly couch in front of a TV! (Right, Emily?)

So now we’ve been talking about making the Arizona room into a family room, which means I would not have a separate dining room. There’s room to put the dining table in the open part of the kitchen, close to where we had it originally, which would mean I wouldn’t also have a breakfast nook. I don’t actually need a dining room and a breakfast nook. We really just need one table. Although I have a second dining table that I’d like to find a place for, somewhere. Tables are always so handy – but this house is not large.

Meanwhile, the new cabinets had been moved in from the garage and unpacked, but not installed.

We continue to be very pleased with the color of the new cabinets up against the new floor tile. They are soft, warm, earthy colors without just being beige, beige, and more beige. Beige has become dated, but the cool grays, blacks & whites that everyone else is installing right now doesn’t match our casual southwest, rustic, Mexican, and handmade furniture and artwork. With these earth tones I think our southwest style decor will match the house, without having to resort to splashing bright primary colors on the walls or something over-the-top like that.

It’s a challenge trying to remodel in a style that’s not popular – it’s hard to find materials – there’s just not a lot of choices. The primary style right now is a minimalistic gray-tone, simple, cool and sparse. John hates that style – it’s not warm and homey. And I don’t want to have to replace all our New Mexico style furniture and artwork!

It’s coming together. And best of all, the new window is in! I love the new window! It’s expensive and difficult to put new windows in adobe brick due to support issues. But we had one spot where a new window would be easy – this nicho on the outside of the house.

Part of me was reluctant to remove a traditional and authentic detail. This nicho with an electric outlet was built to hold a religious statue that lights up at night. I’m personally all in favor of cultural appropriation, but we didn’t want a lighted figurine of a Catholic saint in our front yard. I realized that the existing brickwork would make installing a much-needed living room window a cinch.

Here’s the living room as our contractor was preparing to cut out the window:

And here’s the new window!

It faces east and will get the morning light. The palm tree shades it and provides privacy from the street. We are on a corner, so we have two street sides. We intend to continue to add landscaping for increased privacy, because we like to leave the blinds open during the day, and we have a lot of people walking by on their way to the bike path that’s nearby.

I don’t think I’ll put a blind on this window for daily use, but I have a few artsy ideas for in case we do want to occasionally block it when we’re away. Or if we’re using the living room to accommodate extra guests during the holidays.

These photos are from when we were out there a week ago. We continue to be discouraged by the slow progress even though we are happy with the quality of what’s been done so far. We decided we should go out more regularly to keep a better eye on things, even though it’s a big trip. We’re going to go again this coming weekend, so I should have updated photos next week. Hopefully there will be more progress to report. I am getting excited about moving back to Tucson and trying not to be impatient!

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Balloon Fiesta 2022

The next weekend we went to the Albuquerque Balloon Fiesta with my friend Amy from Tucson, who had spent the week in Taos and then come back down for the fiesta. The biggest challenge with the balloon fiesta is getting there. Albuquerque doubles in population during the balloon fiesta, and thousands of people get up at 4:00 in the morning to get to the park before dawn to see the balloon ascension.

It’s possible to drive to the park but the traffic jams are horrific. There are also city-run shuttle busses – big school busses running from several locations throughout the city. A couple of years in the past we’ve rented an RV slot in one of the miles of gravel RV parking lots to the south of the park, stayed the night in our van, and walked on in the morning. This year we tried something new – a bicycle tour!

There is a bike path that goes by the balloon park so biking is a popular way to get there. Of course you still have to find parking near the path, unless you’re lucky enough to live along it. In addition to riding your own bike in, there are also bicycle tour groups organized along the path.

We decided to sign up for a bike tour that included the rental of electric bikes. We had never tried electric bikes before, and thought that would be fun. The tour we went with was located 6 miles from the park, all of it along the bike path. The electric bikes to made the trip easier, even though the route was relatively flat. At 5:30 am, I’ll take any boost I can get! The bikes and our helmets were decorated with lots of lights and glow sticks so we felt safe and festive.

I have since learned that there is another bike tour that that starts from the Los Poblanos Historic Inn & Organic Farm, which is 8 miles out. That one looks fun too, but I’m not sure if their bikes are electric or not. Part of the appeal of the tour we took was the chance to try out electric bikes. Here we are, riding to the festival in the pre-dawn darkness.

I would never ride a bike to the festival in the dark without the safety of a bike path. Too many sleepy, grumpy, confused tourists driving around lost and frustrated in the thick traffic jams in the early-morning darkness.

As we got near the park, the bike path started getting congested with other bicyclists and lots of people walking in. We were actually quite the spectacle on our brightly lit bikes, providing entertainment for those around us. I was the third one back in a line of 12 of us, putting me in the perfect position to hear people’s initial surprised and appreciative exclamations as we cycled past them.

This year we didn’t take any pictures of the dawn patrol (where a few balloons go up when it’s still dark). Here’s a photo from a previous year. Dawn patrol is beautiful.

This photo is also from a previous year, so you can see what it looks like right before dawn.

Some years it’s absolutely freezing early in the morning, but luckily this year was warmer than most.

There are hundreds of balloons and even though they have them going up several at a time, it takes a few hours for them all to launch.

Here I’m looking up and smiling at a nearby balloon in front of me, oblivious to the weird looking orange balloon in the distance behind me. Until I was scrolling through our photos for this blog and saw it. Uhhh, what the heck is that?

Turns out it’s a sloth on a branch. Oh, ok.

We mostly stuck to the edges of the fields. The main section of the park was incredibly jam packed with thousands of people. You could barely make your way through the crowds and it was nearly impossible to buy food or drink. Luckily John brought water and breakfast bars in his backpack.

Amy was invited into a balloon basket, but she wasn’t actually going to ride up in it. We were just recruited to help hold the basket steady while the balloon was inflated and the balloonists were waiting for permission to take off.

The balloon was tethered with lines, but the baskets still swing around a lot if not weighted down. The balloons aren’t allowed to take off without a referee, called a zebra, overseeing the lift off. So there’s a lot waiting around with the hot inflated balloons straining at their lines.

When we’d seen enough, we had a leisurely bicycle trip back, and when we arrived, were greeted with breakfast burritos and beer (we passed on the beer). All in all, a great way to see the fiesta.

We were happy Amy was able to go with us, because she had never been to the festival before, and had always wanted to see it. We were lucky too, because it turns out this first day, the day we went, was the best weather for the entire festival. Numerous events were canceled over the next 10 days due to wind and rain.

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