Below is the post I forgot to publish a couple of days ago. 🙂
There’s pretty much nothing better than berries with coconut cream for breakfast on the back patio in the summertime. I love summer. My goal in life is year-round summer.
Although this morning started out with a bit of a bang. Thunder and lightening at 6 AM. That’s 12 hours too early (or 12 hours too late). Since when do afternoon thundershowers show up at dawn? I don’t know what the weather was thinking.
When the wind kicked up at 5 AM, I woke up and remembered I had left some empty moving boxes, stuffed with packing paper, out near the recycling bin (rather than inside the recycling bin). I imagined packing paper blowing across the entire neighborhood, so I got up and moved them into the garage. I hadn’t yet fallen back to sleep when the thunder started. Seriously?
Nonetheless, I love summer. It’s never, ever too hot for me!
Last night John and I took a little quiz from my latest self-help book (I read those books for tips to use when I’m working with my clients). The point of the quiz was to identify our values (what we care about in life), as the prelude to setting goals.
We both ended up with 10-12 values, along the line of creativity, curiosity, independence, honesty, fairness, competence etc. The next step is to identify goals that will incorporate those values into our lives.
But this morning I was thinking, no, you know what? Someone else can pursue the elusive “meaningful life.” Someone else can save the world. I’ll content myself with trying to help my clients and keeping up with the rentals.
And if I have a goal in life at all, it’s going to be about being outside, in summer temperatures, year-round. That’s my goal: summer.
Ok, ok, I hear you all. You’re all like, “Kristina. You just posted a ton of posts in one day, after not even telling us that your house had sold! It sold like almost 3 weeks ago! Plus, shouldn’t you be unpacking?“
So you’re right. I should do a better job. The blogging software has a feature to allow me to schedule when the posts go up. I could use it to even out the batches of posts. Problem is, it doesn’t seem to have a “post three weeks ago” button.
It does have a “post three weeks FROM now” button, but what’s the point of that? I’ll have other things to say three weeks from now. There just isn’t a post-in-the-past button. It’s not there. I know it’s not user error, because I have looked. Believe me. It’s a bug in the software.
Maybe WordPress should hire some of those geniuses working for Google or somebody and they can get that fixed. Because I can guarantee you, there is not currently a post-last-week button.
In my defense, I actually thought I had posted the first two of yesterday’s posts on Monday. You know, to even it out over Monday and Tuesday at least. Turns out I was wrong. Yep, they all went up yesterday.
The good news is, I forgot to post one of the posts I wrote yesterday – or you would have had 5!
Our Eagle Crest tenants left mid-June, so we took advantage of it being vacant and had new floor tile installed.
The previous laminate was in poor shape. Sam did a great job, although it took him over a month. You all remember Sam the brick guy, right? He did the brick floors out in Placitas, and the brick patio in Santa Fe, and he does tile too. Talented, kind, and veeeeery sloooow. Of course the house had to sit empty without rent during that time.
This floor tile was originally purchased for the Placitas house – it was supposed to match the original tile, but it was a different dye lot and wasn’t anything close to the same color. Remember that? It was probably about the only time I’ve used the F-word in a blog post. We were stuck with a couple thousand dollars worth of tile. We put it in a storage unit for two years and were finally now able to use it in this rental.
Then while on our way back from Boise, I was texting my old friends from work and I got lucky. A former coworker decided he would like to rent it, so I didn’t even need to advertise. Advertising is a lot of work – I get inundated with responses when I advertise. It’s a lot of phone calls, emails and texts, and sorting through applications and showings. My coworker rented it sight unseen and hasn’t moved in yet, so I sure hope he likes it!
I spent some time this weekend doing some cleaning & touch-up painting to make sure it’s ready. John went to fix yet another leak in the irrigation system, and each time he had one fixed, another started. It was like wack-a-mole. (I don’t even know what wack-a-mole is, but I’ve heard the expression and can well imagine.) So he finally gave up trying to fix individual leaks, and re-ran a lot of the line. It was a big job; trenching in the rock-hard New Mexico soil in the summer heat is not fun. We’re grateful for a friend of ours, Gerald, for helping us out.
All of our rentals have irrigation systems, even though they are minimally landscaped – mostly rock. It’s really hard to grow much in the desert without at least some water in the springtime. And tenants don’t tend to hand-water. Keeping the irrigation systems working is a big nuisance. I’ve never been able to find affordable landscaping help.
I had paid (too much) to have the yard trimmed up last month in preparation for advertising, and it’s still not in very good shape. So I’m hoping to get over there within the next couple of days and do some more weeding and such myself, before our new tenant arrives.
I hope our new tenant (and ex-coworker) has a safe trip back to New Mexico. Like a lot of us who have left and come back, I know he is going to be happy to get here.
Ok, yes, I used it, the “r” word – remodel. We bought a house that was “already updated and didn’t need a thing”, but nonetheless we always like to “do a few little custom touches” ourselves and…I admit it. When there’s a cement truck in your driveway, you’re probably getting some serious work done.
Which is exactly why one of our neighbors called the city
and reported us. We got a surprise visit from an inspector followed by a notice
of violation in the mail.
Ooops. I was once a city planner, I should know better than
failing to pull a permit, right? Yeah, but we trusted our contractor who didn’t
think we needed a permit. And he was partially right; our project was completely
within code. There were no wavers or variances needed (and nothing any
neighbors could do about it; it was completely within our rights) but the city
still wanted some paperwork.
It wasn’t a big deal. John went down to the planning
department with some measurements and sketches and the required $35 to get our
stamp of approval. However, their computers were down. So I went back the next
day and got it done. The only really weird thing was we were required to email
the city’s list of HOA’s ourselves, out of our own personal email. Public
notification is very common for projects of all sorts, but in my experience
it’s always the government agency (i.e. the City of Albuquerque), not the
private party, doing the notification.
The purpose of this project is to slightly extend (toward the street) the two side yards. The left side of the house is where we park the boat and van, and we wanted to replace the gate with one further out, in order to accommodate the length of the van and boat. That required extending the wall by a few feet.
The right-hand side yard is off the bedrooms, where we are creating a courtyard. The new courtyard will be accessed from a new door in the master bedroom.
When we’re done, will will have three yard spaces: the main backyard, a southern exposure side yard where the dogs play, and a courtyard off the master bedroom.
I like to have a separate space for the dogs because we like to eat our meals outside in the summer, and I don’t like to eat where the dogs do their business – phew! Kai in particular is ill mannered and will pee on my patio when he thinks I’m not looking. So the dogs aren’t allowed in the main backyard that’s off the kitchen.
Plus, most of the year in New Mexico is quite cool, so we wanted a usable south facing yard. The sunny south yard will be much more pleasant than the shaded backyard during the fall, winter, and spring.
We added a cement pad for furniture so we can sit with the dogs outside and throw Kira’s ball.
And we’re creating planting areas. So far we’ve planted one shade tree and I have a small fig tree waiting to go in.
We now have the south yard set up with a hammock and umbrella, and next year we’re going to build a pergola there. Meanwhile, we play ball with Kira every night. It’s the lazy ball game – we lay in the hammock while tossing her the ball!
Whatcha doing mom? Aren’t we gonna play ball?
On the other side of the south yard fence we’re creating a courtyard off the master bedroom. Not only will it be a sweet little quiet spot, it will provide privacy from inside the master bedroom. Where we once had a window looking out at the neighbor’s garbage cans and the street, we now look at the inside of our new courtyard.
Old view from the bedroom:
Here’s the outline of the new wall for the master bedroom courtyard (we took the low wall down).
Here it is again, with the low dividing wall removed.
New view from the bedroom: right now the new corner is just a boring block wall, but by next year I’ll have flowering vines and things, just you wait and see.
The new door from the bedroom into the courtyard is going where the low wall was.
I bought the wrong door (for 4″ jamb rather than 6″ jamb), so here we’re returning it.
We go to the hardware stores so often, I feel like I could just grab an employee smock and start helping customers.
Here’s John planting trees in the main backyard. Here he’s frantically trying to get them in the ground and on a drip system before our recent trip to Boise.
We’re also doing indoor work. This is an interior door where there was just an open doorway. It will add some privacy to the living room that we are making into an office.
Here it is with the plastic removed. We’re still missing door handles (on order) and don’t look at all those bins and boxes piled in the middle of the office, lol.
Here we’re installing overhead light/fans in the bedrooms. There were no lights at all in the bedrooms, so we had to add the wiring, which required cutting into the drywall.
Now there are overhead lights/fans in all three bedrooms.
There was no storage in the master bathroom (no drawers, no shelves, no towel racks, no nothing except two hooks and the wasteland under the sink), so we added two big beautiful medicine cabinets.
The picture doesn’t do them justice. Mirrors are hard to photograph (I wasn’t into doing selfies this morning).
Those two little robe hooks you see reflected in the mirror are the only “storage” the bathroom came with. I’m going to remove those and add both shelving and towel racks.
On our drive to and from Boise, John and I listened to several TED talks that I had downloaded before we left. They contained tons of interesting information, but one nugget that stuck with me is this: we are happier with our decisions if there is no option to change our decision later.
The study was more complicated than I want to try to describe, but basically, the participants had to choose their favorite of several things they made – they would get to keep only one. Some of them had to make their final decision immediately. Others were asked to choose one, but they had several days to exchange it for a different one if they changed their minds.
Wouldn’t you rather have the option to change your mind? It seems like we all would, but some time later, they followed up with the participants, and the participants who weren’t given the option to change their mind liked their items better than the participants who were given several days to change their mind – regardless of whether those who could, actually did exchange their item.
Turns out we are more satisfied with our decisions when we make a final commitment at the time of the decision. At least according to that series of studies. And it makes some sense.
For example, I quit my job in April, and I haven’t decided whether I’m going back to work or not. It seems like that would be a really wonderful situation. Maybe I will – maybe I won’t. I can do whatever I want! And I do feel privileged to be in that position. But I’m finding it surprisingly stressful and unsatisfying to have that option open indefinitely.
I keep starting to look for a new job, and then deciding against it, and then not knowing whether I should or not…I’m really in limbo. And I think I just need to embrace something. Am I going back to work soon? Later? Never? Am I retired? Changing careers?
I have accepted a few new coaching clients, but I’m not even sure about that. How many clients do I want? Is coaching going to be my primary endeavor?
When people ask me what I do, should I say I’m a coach? Or should I say I’m retired? Yes, people ask. My bank asked me yesterday, and I wasn’t even applying for a loan, I was just opening a new deposit account. Not two hours later we ran into friends of John’s at Golden Pride, a local fast food place, and once again, my career status came up. Where do I work? What do I do?
All the way up to the last moment we had reason to believe that the sale of the Placitas house wasn’t going to go through. But we went ahead and signed the paperwork and went on vacation.
Three days later, just as we were arriving in Boise after two days of driving, we got the news. We were closed. It had funded and recorded. Amazingly, we no longer owned that house.
Just for fun, John had followed the tradition of burying a small St. Joseph statue in the yard. After the house sells, you’re supposed to dig the statue back up. Catch is, we were going to be gone for over a week, and with luck, by the time we got back, we would not own the house anymore and shouldn’t be out there digging things up. So we took a risk and dug him back up on our way out of town the day after we signed the papers, a couple of days before we actually closed.
If you haven’t heard of the St. Joseph tradition, don’t worry. I hadn’t heard of it either until I moved here. This is a very Catholic area and the little statues are easily available.
We buried the St. Joseph statue just for fun; we don’t actually believe in it – but let me tell you this. I buried a statue to sell my townhouse in 2008 when we were getting married and the market was crashing. My house sold – John’s didn’t. At least not until 11 years later when he buried a statue. There you go. Proof! 😉
It’s sort of hard to comprehend that the house is actually sold. I don’t think that house is going to leave our minds right away. It’s been a big part of our relationship. We’ve probably spent more money and effort on that house than any other joint endeavor for all of these past 13 years together.
In a way it seems like now we can start over, starting from where we thought we’d be when we got married. Ironically, after several moves, we are now living back in the very same neighborhood as the house we first bought together in 2007. We’re literally a very short walk from our first house, off the same cross streets, sharing the same neighborhood park.
Just like back in 2007, John has a short commute and I don’t have a job in my environmental career – I’m working from home, doing some life coaching. It seems like we’re going to try again, and maybe this next decade will be easier than the last one.
Before I went to Boise, I took Larrisa to a children’s beading class at Mama’s Minerals near Old Town.
They gave the kids a lot of beads to choose from, and a tray to help them organize. If I ever get back into beading myself, I’m going to buy one of these trays. They are inexpensive and very handy.
Most of the other girls were making themselves bracelets, but Larrisa was making her grandmother a necklace. Larrisa is very appreciative of her grandmother, who took her in when her mom was struggling.
She picked out a beautiful piece of quartz for the centerpiece. Problem was it didn’t have a hole drilled, so there was no way to string it. The instructor kindly offered to wire wrap it, and did a great job.
I haven’t been posting much because we were in Idaho for over a week (more on that soon). And then when we got back, it was discouraging coming home to a house that’s a construction zone. Plus I’ve only managed to do about half of the unpacking from our move. The house is for the most part functioning, but it’s not a very relaxing place to be yet.
This is the scene that greeted us when we got home and opened the front door.
And it wouldn’t have helped any if we had come in the back door instead. Here’s what that looks like:
Plus, both bathrooms were in middle of getting work done.
The hall bath was the most useable. Just covered in drywall debris with a gaping hole in the ceiling where a fan was being installed. So the first thing John did before even unloading the van was clean up the drywall mess so we would at least have one bathroom we could use.
While I’m amusing you with pictures of my chaotic house, here’s what my office looks like.
The dining room without any pictures on the walls is peaceful, almost Zen-like…
…until you notice the huge pile of camping equipment on top of moving boxes in the corner.
Shortly after getting home from Boise, I got a big migraine for a couple of days. I think it was the barometric pressure drop due to the elevation change. I get migraines due to pressure drops when the weather gets stormy or when going up in elevation. The elevation in Boise is 2,730′ and in Albuquerque it’s about 5,500′ in the part of town where we live.
I also got a migraine when we went backpacking at 7,000′ during our Idaho trip, but that one didn’t last very long. It was preceded by an aura, which I don’t usually get, but when I do it’s useful because it gives me early warning and I can take the medicine quickly.
Anyway, I’m all better now, except I’m still limping around due to a fall while backpacking (more on that later). My house is still chaos, but I am hoping to take some time today to get a few blog posts up. In between the chaos, lots of good stuff has been going on!
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