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Winter blues
Generally I struggle a little bit with seasonal depression, mostly in the January-March timeframe. But this year, it started at the beginning of October. Once it’s too dark to jog in the morning before work, I think the lack of exercise is a contributor, even though I like autumn.
Also it continues to be stressful at work. I do still like the job, but it has been surprisingly stressful ever since I started a year ago. More turn-over and more office drama and politics than I’m used to.
So, politics…on my way to work one day I noticed the car in front of me had an old “OBAMACARE” sticker. But they had altered it with a marker, adding a “D” on the end so it read, “OBAMACARED”. And suddenly, I just started crying. Like, literally sobbing in my car on the way to work. I know they’re all politicians, but it really did seem like he actually cared. And I certainly don’t feel cared for by the current administration.
Then a few of weekends ago when I first got the terrible news about my kid’s brother, I was in really bad shape, and I haven’t fully recovered yet. So, here’s what I’m going to do (this is what life coaches call accountability):
My coworker gave me the name of a therapist, who is covered by my insurance, and I’m going to call her and I’m going to go.
John and I are going to figure out how to go back to living together during the work week. The options are: both of us changing jobs, one of us changing jobs, both of us having a long commute, or one of us having a super-long commute.
I made an appointment with an expensive medical doctor (who isn’t covered by my insurance), because I’ve heard she’s good. I’m hoping she can help with migraines and energy level.
I’m going to get outside every day.
I’m going to exercise every day that I don’t have a migraine, even though it’s dark.
A big issue with exercise is it can trigger migraines. I mean, it’s hard enough, right? To get your butt out there and exercise? Without thinking it could cause a migraine. So I’m going to exercise every day that I’m not actively treating an existing migraine. Yes, I’ll probably trigger a few extra migraines that I might not have gotten otherwise. But I’ve got to exercise.
I’m exhausted after work and it’s dark and I don’t exercise. I don’t even do my dishes. I just sit on the couch and read magazines. Then in the morning, instead of exercising, I do my dishes and chores that I should have done the previous evening.
On Friday I was talking to a coworker who is my age (at least), and she bicycles 12 miles to work. 12 miles each way! That’s 24 miles. Ok…fine. She’s a biker. Well then it turns out she also swims a mile at lunchtime. That’s 70 laps! She does it in 40 minutes! I’m like…damn. I need to get my shit together. I’ll never bike 24 miles and I can’t even swim one lap, much less 70. But maybe I could jog a couple of miles, slow?
I’ve put new alarms on my phone. I used to have just one, to get up at 6:00 in the morning, and I had the alarm titled something sappy like “grateful for this day”. Here’s my new alarms:
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